I provide ADHD group coaching and support. Consequently, this post is probably a really bad business move for me.
Working with clients, I have seen two basic attitudes about life with ADHD.
Some of us immediately jump in and make the best of it. (coaching, therapy, education)
While others become overwhelmed and stuck looking for support.
Obviously, this is an oversimplification. But in general people in the first group often feel compelled to gather as much information as they can and jump into, “fix it” mode immediately.
While others with less resources become disenchanted and give up on making their lives better, effectively getting stuck.
ADHD coaching is NOT right for everyone with ADHD. And just because anyone with a social media profile can call themselves a coach, does not mean you should hire them. (The best coaches aren’t spending much time on social media, anyway.)
Is ADHD coaching and support for you?
Here’s how to tell
I’m going to save you a little trouble (and maybe some money) by making 5 important points about ADHD coaching and support services.
Social Media should not be your primary source of ADHD information
I will be the first to admit that Facebook is fun. So is Instagram and Twitter.
But that’s the point of social media – fun. Facebook is an escape from real life and a chance to see what everyone else is doing.
Unfortunately, nine times out of ten social media will distract you from doing the things that will actually make you feel better about your life, leaving you feeling even more stuck.
Have you ever gone into a facebook group, and then taken some positive action that really moved your life forward?
Information overload won’t change your life
I’ve spent years doing my due diligence by researching and attending conferences.
Since you are reading this article I will assume you have hit some of the other ADHD websites looking for information.
If you’re anything like me, you don’t read, you skim. Because…ADHD.
We want to see what’s in it for us.
No matter how skilled the coach is, or how well researched the article is, we only read 20% of it because we scroll to the bottom. (Go ahead, I know you want to.)
My website and Instagram content is all free.
FREE means optional. There’s no urgency or accountability.
You and I both know that we have trouble sorting through a large volume of information. We tune it out and keep scrolling, absorbing almost nothing.
we love instant gratification
This is tough love, but it needs to be said.
Do you know why there is so much social media noise around ADHD?
Because it feels good, and when you post something on Facebook/Instagram you get responses. You can wait with baited breath for that FEEDBACK. That momentary hit.
As a result, my friends and I are over here writing/podcasting/coaching about ways to make your life better and feel more in control, and nobody is hearing us through all of the noise.
Which leads me to my next point…
levels of awareness about ADHD
The lower your awareness, the less likely you are to feel a sense of urgency about taking control of ADHD.
Low level awareness – happens when you have not been diagnosed, or were recently diagnosed. You’re Googling, joining all of the Facebook groups, and watching all the videos.
You are absorbing too much social media information and since you have ADHD you cannot effectively sort through it.
You are in no way ready to take meaningful action.
High level awareness– happens when you have been aware of your diagnosis and had time to process.
You’ve probably read some of the well-known books, and you figured out that the best information is not going to be found on social media.
You recognize the areas of your life where ADHD is impacting you. And you might be interested in some accountability and possibly coaching.
You understand ADHD can be managed, but it requires a commitment on your part.
You are gearing up to take meaningful action.
Mid-level awareness– happens when you know and have accepted what is.
You have ADHD, and you look for accurate information on the topic.
You might be interested in some low-cost educational resources, or small group support.
You don’t have thousands of dollars to spend on a coach.
You are ready to take action, as long as there isn’t much risk involved.
ADHD coaching and support is NOT part of the journey for everyone.
I’ve spent 3 ½ years trying to build a community. I walked away from my career, borrowed money from my husband, and swallowed my pride about one hundred times.
Like many of you I live with depression, anxiety, and a host of other barriers to my success.
Every life coach on Instagram is telling you that they can solve your problems, but you should remain open to other more affordable ways to seek help. Coaching is not the only way to move your life forward.
IS ADHD Coaching and Support right for You?
ADHD Coaching and Support is NOT for you if:
you don’t see any value in coaching/support
you don’t believe you are capable of change
you do not want to take any action at this time
you cannot financially handle a full coaching package
you believe ADHD is a gift, or a curse
ADHD Coaching and Support IS for you if:
you identify with the mid-high levels of ADHD awareness
you are willing to make the best of it, even on bad days
you are motivated to take action
you are ready and able to see changes
you have the financial resources to commit to several months of support to create consistency
I want to change the conversation around ADHD and provide high-quality content in a private environment. No more overwhelm.
My private membership is the bridge between ADHD research and the people actually living with the diagnosis. Not everyone can afford a coaching package and I want to fill the gap.