I’ve been thinking a lot over the past few months about ADHD women and productivity shame.
What is productivity shame? Well, I didn’t come up with the name. In fact I stole it from Jocelyn K. Glei. I highly recommend her podcast called Hurry Slowly and her website.
Productivity Shame is not unique to ADHD women, but I do believe it is felt more deeply by us for a couple of reasons.
First, as a woman the world expects different things from you than it does from a man. Things like kinkeeping, calendar management, and other more domestic-minded pursuits.
If you are a woman with ADHD you might struggle with paperwork and mail, household cleaning and organizing, and…even worse childcare.
Admitting you struggle with these tasks is embarrassing. Many of us cannot even reveal our true feelings to our partners.
Second, as a rule it is trendy to be productive. Our society places a high value on the appearance of success and productivity.
The rise of social media and blogs has only increased the pressure to produce something, anything, that proves that we are using every hour of every day in the most productive manner possible.
If we spend the whole day playing with our kid and have nothing to show for it, not even a home cooked meal, we are taught to feel bad about this. Like we are profoundly lazy and a disappointment to both ourselves and our partners.
The other big obstacle to creating REAL productivity is what I call the, “fake productivity” that we all engage in.
If you sat down and tracked how many hours of your day you spend checking email, scrolling, texting and otherwise avoiding your own thoughts – I guarantee you would be shocked.
We fritter away so much time on useless activities.
Sometimes we do it so we appear busy and in demand, while other times we are actually trying to escape our own thoughts or the problems in our lives.
I recently read that office workers only actually, “work” about two hours and fifty-three minutes per day. Most office workers stay in the office at least nine hours per day.
Are these people just wasting six hours per day?
Nope. Those six hours are being eaten by scrolling, emails, and too many meetings that drain the energy right out of them.
The same thing happens to stay-at-home-moms, EXCEPT we have much less tolerance for, “wasted time,” when a woman works in the home.
Make no mistake being a stay-at-home-mom or homemaker is work. I daresay the expectations are higher for women on the homefront than anywhere else.
And don’t even get me started on multi-tasking. It just doesn’t work.
No wonder so many of us suffer with productivity shame.
I brought this conversation about ADHD women and productivity shame into my private Enclave group.
The podcast I recorded was a direct result of those conversations.
In this episode you will hear:
- Productivity Shame
False productivity and business
The difference between speed and efficiency
Multitasking does NOT work
Less doing. More Being.
Energy management leads to productivity