Understanding ADHD And Hyperfocus

Everyone talks about lack of focus, but there’s little understanding of ADHD hyperfocus. What is hyperfocus?  It is exactly what it sounds like. When a person focuses on something so intently that they fail to notice changes in their environment, other people, and sometimes even neglect to eat or drink. Years ago I was working […]

ADHD and Exhaustion

Every woman I talk to mentions ADHD and exhaustion at some point. For that reason I’ve suspected for a while that the fuzzy cotton brain feeling many of us describe isn’t our imagination or another manifestation of poor executive function. So I was thrilled when this article came out confirming what you and I already […]

The Invisible Life of ADHD Women

ADHD women are invisible in the world. Not because you can’t see us, but because you can’t SEE us clearly. Many of us live in the margins because we have never found our footing. Watching everyone else seemingly get everything they want and feeling like nobody notices YOU can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. You don’t […]

Low Maintenance

Are you low maintenance?   I’ve been low maintenance for so long I don’t even know how to be any other way. I used to wonder how I got here, so obnoxiously people-pleasing and pathetic. Recently, I went into Venmo to do my billing and somehow I sent money to a client instead of requesting […]

Do The Thing

Some people just naturally do the thing, whatever it is. I call them, “doers.” My husband is a doer. He wanted to build a murphy bed so he showed me a kit he found online. Within a day he’d ordered the kit, and within another day a bunch of lumber and boxes appeared in my […]

When ADHD Runs In The Family

When ADHD runs in the family things are never boring. You hear all manner of colorful conversations at family gatherings. Take this one from a few months ago between my brother and myself. “Liz, those pills aren’t fixing anything. It’s basically a crutch.” When he said the words to me I felt like I had […]

The Good Kind Of Lazy

Lazy is a word I hear a lot. ADHD adults are often mislabeled as lazy, so much so it’s a bit of a trigger word. Knowing everything I do about executive functions, I’ve still described myself this way. I don’t dislike the word as much as I used to though, because I now understand that […]

Finding Your ADHD Blind Spots

Finding Your ADHD blind spots is difficult because the very nature of the condition creates the barriers. For example, I have this weird sort of visceral reaction to receiving help or support. When the Hubs offers to help me make scrambled eggs, I immediately think, “I know how to scramble eggs asshole!” But do I? […]